As my husband's illness progressed, he became very difficult to live with. He was very moody and irritable. At first we didn't know what was wrong but he blamed his inability to cope on me and the children. We were too loud, too excited, too irritating, too talkative. One symptom of PTSD is heightened sense of hearing and smell. He would startle easily and criticize constantly. His PTSD actually caused him physical pain and he suffered severe debilitating headaches. He was unable to work. At one point he didn't really leave our house for a whole year unless he had a medical appointment. I became a caregiver, a peacemaker. More and more I buried the things I needed from a partner, from a lover as any demand placed on him could illicit an angry outburst. I became invisible. This experience of separation should be freeing and full of relief. I can finally be myself. I can finally breathe, but I find I am caught up in grieving. My caged heart is released, but is sadly broken beyond recognition. #ptsd#separation#divorce#movingtowardhealing#findingmyself#iwillsurvive#brokenhearted#finallyfree
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Contrary to what most people think, asking for what you want in a relationship matters big time. We've heard so many clients brush this off saying things like... "it's no big deal" ... "it really doesn't matter" ... "why bother?"
But here's the thing: Not communicating your wants and needs undermines your relationship. When you don't share what you want with your partner it makes it impossible to connect with them on a deeper level. You simply can't have an intimate connection without sharing all of yourself.
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Last day of school 2016/2017. I'm so sorry this divorce has tainted kindergarten, grade 3 and grade 4 for you my babies. I love you more than the world and I'm so so sorry for the times you have seen me cry this past few years. I am so sorry that this has gotten in the way of an idyllic childhood. I love you. I'm fighting to build a good new life for you. I'm doing everything in my power to remain strong so that you can return back to days of no worries. I love you. Mom loves you so much.
I feel like I need to speak to some of the darker sides of my health journey. One part is how stress has affected me.
Eleven months ago my hubby walked out on me. I had already taken drastic steps to improve my health over the six months prior. When he left, I didn't know what to do, so I've been working on my health.
In the first month, I remember losing a lot of weight. I recall looking in the mirror and thinking my butt had disappeared (which now looking back at these photos, it really had). My body has always been very normalized, so the fact that so much weight came off so quickly was really shocking (and looking back, probably a bit alarming). Stress is incredibly hard on the body. It affects the function of every single cell, changes our hormones, impedes digestion, slows healing, promotes tissue damage, and is a big contributor to all disease and illness.
Our bodies cannot operate if we're stressed, especially if it's low-grade and chronic. Having gone through a lot of hardship in my 20s (and to be honest still going through it now), I have to work on managing my stress so as to not inflict more damage on my body. The body can not truly heal while in a stressed state.
The issue is that the pursuit of improved health can in itself be a stressful thing. I've tried to guard myself against this, but I know it's a real battle for many women out there too.
The human body is adaptive, and change can happen quick, but achieving deep, transformative healing takes loads of time. Most of the research I've come across states that it takes 6-18 months to change or repair tissue. That's why consistency is so important.
It's easy to get anxious in the process. Suffering with reoccurring symptoms can be frustrating. It's hard not to get upset about bad reactions or slip ups. There is an element of trial and error. But the beauty of the journey is that if you're devoted, the improvement will come over time, and those little slip ups will be just a drop in the bucket - they won't matter.
So relax. Enjoy your time with others. Try to rid yourself of the fear of judgement, shame, fear, and anxiety. Often people with the best health are those with the best attitude.
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The necessity of #Separation has been burning in my heart for a few days. Then I found the "Divine Separation" plan by Pastor Lisa Singh on @youversion •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
You know how it is easy to "guilt trip" ourselves to hold on to things or people that have actually done their time in our lives or even those that had no business being a part of our lives in the first place!
My sister says I have "people patience", in other words, I tend to hold on to people, make excuses for their shortcomings, apologize to myself on their behalf and get myself emotionally worked up while trying to be "lil'miss-fix-it". All that is to say, I am very guilty of holding on to things and people longer than is necessary. So technically, this message is for me but I know someone out there also needs to hear this! Coincidentally, everywhere I have turned to in the last few days, I have either seen a post or heard someone talk about the necessity of separation. This makes me more certain this reminder is important in this season!!!
Special shoutout to @thericherwoman @zanyfran @wandeog
Sometimes I when I walk alone in life, I welcome the solidarity as it means I get to on with my life as I see fit. Sometimes, it scares me to death. the first 6 months after divorce, I never felt more alone, despite being surrounded my loads of family and friends. My heart took a beating I couldn't fathom and I felt like I couldn't cope with it all. But now, in this wide open space that is my life, I have learnt resilience and being alone doesn't scare me anymore. Because at the end of the day, we're not really "alone". Its what you make your life to be.
You need to keep talking! Especially when you are both going through something. Pulling the covers over your head and ignoring the situation will only make things worse!
You cannot pretend that everything is alright when it is not. Walking on eggshells around each other creates unbearable stress within the relationship and the household. Don't think everyone else including your kids don't know because the atmosphere within the home shifts according to the stress levels of the parents.
Don't let your feelings build and build because you haven't talked about the situation. Small things become larger than life when you don't talk things out right away.
There are many dynamics when it comes to communication within your relationship.
If you or both of you are struggling in this area and would like some help to guide you through to calmer and more stress free ways to communicate more effectively then click the link in my bio and Let's Talk! I have a free discovery call available where you can tell me your story and I can tell you how I can help.
Lack of communication can kill a marriage.
Inability to work through issues and problems can damage a marriage! Let me help you build strong effective communication skills and learn new ways to build a bridge between you that will bring you back together and help you work like a team!
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